Recalibrate Your Coaching Using Mediation Skills
Recalibrate Your Coaching Using Mediation Skills with Beth Buelow
As we progress in our coaching careers, we can become disconnected from the fundamentals that we As we progress in our coaching careers, we can become disconnected from the fundamentals that we learned in training: asking simple, direct, powerful questions. Keeping the spotlight totally on the client. Mining for values. Noticing biases. Trusting the process. To put it bluntly, we can get sloppy. We can allow the lines to blur as we build trust and intimacy with our clients, and we can fall into bad habits.
That awareness opens an opportunity to revisit the fundamentals using the lessons from a related framework: mediation. Mediation is based on active listening, open-ended questions, values identification, establishing agreements, and creating accountability. What’s different from coaching? The high threshold for neutrality. It requires extreme self-management, with virtually no room for “mediator interference.”
An exploration of that practice, along with other mediation skills, serves as an interesting framework to recalibrate our relationship to the ICF Core Competencies, bring more rigor to the coaching process, and reconnect with ways to bring more ease and flow to our coaching.
Beth Buelow (BEE-low), PCC, is a Professional Certified Coach, specializing in leadership and interpersonal communication. Over the past 11 years, she has personally coached more than 125 leaders and entrepreneurs to amplify their strengths and create success on their own terms. Beth is the author of “The Introvert Entrepreneur” and host of the podcast “How Can I Say This…,” which is focused on providing resources to help us all have more courageous conversations. She is a trained mediator and volunteers at her local mediation center in Muskegon, Michigan.
August 14, 2019 | Video File